The Abandonment Continues

What is it about the current paradigm of abandonment parenting today ? I watch as a child is left in his cot clearly unhappy, uncomfortable and just wanting to be held by it's mother. He's coughed for his entire afternoon nap, and has had no real sleep. The choice to continue this game of "He'll eventually go to sleep" utterly disgusts me. Why is it that this child is rewarded for being a good boy, meaning "go to sleep because that's what good boys do" ?? Yet is put into a place of being a bad boy because he doesn't want to sleep, he just wants to be held and around people. Not only that, when he finally emerges his relatives then smother him to the point that their energy completely engulfs him. This wears him out. He has to first deal with NO attention, then MORE attention than he actually wants. Ironic isn't it that 5 minutes before they were all happy to give him NO attention.

Parenting these days only produces one thing. The same crap it produced the generation before. So now we find ourselves dealing with another abandoned child (the parent), who is now projecting the same sort of trauma onto the new generation. This abandonment comes in all shapes and sizes. The child soon realizes that he will be praised for acceptable behavior and penalized for so called "bad behavior". This all according to the society and deep socialization that takes place between 1 and 7. What a nightmare !!! If a child is crying, it is for a very good reason. Pick the child up and love it. Don't allow it to be abandoned and become the exact replica of it's parent. It makes me sick to the stomach to witness this behavior. And I see it over and over again. Abandonment causes what you are currently seeing in the world today. 

God knows what its doing to the child's heart. But then again, we all know what it's really doing don't we..........because EVERYTHING that we deal with on an adult level is the inner abandoned child, and it occurs deep within us all EVERYDAY.....